Dating Tip : Top 5 Mistakes to Avoid on Your First Date With Her
So you finally succeeded in getting that first date. What’s next?
Well, you will do yourself a world of good to avoid making some common mistakes which can make or break your day, and possibly your ego. Outlined in this dating tip guide are 5 mistakes that you should avoid at all costs. Ready? Read on.
1. Flashing your cash at her
You may have loads of cash, or you may not have a single dime. Whatever it is, never try to use money to buy your date’s love. This is the number one mistake to avoid on your first date. This is supposed to be a chance for you to find out if your date is compatible with you. You are not going through an arranged marriage. If it really works out, then good for you. But if it doesn’t, then make sure there are no regrets of you being too spendthrifty when you look back on all the cash you spent on the expensive dinner, the movie ticket, the roses, the collar for her golden retriever and so on.
There are also descrete ways of showing you have sohistication and money. The clothes you wear, the watch you wear, the car you drive, the job you have and your willingness to buy her small gifts and make nothing of it. She'll naturally put two and two togther without you having to tell her your worth.
If you're lucky enough to get a second date there may be things you want to do better this time round. So you buy her diamonds, a gold bracelet, a new golden retriever, a mansion, an island, and heck, you can fly to the moon and back. Your woman will be so impressed by you. This is all good if you can sustain it, but it doesn't TRULY measure your inner worth and if you can't sustain it she'll be left hanging for more and possibly leave you in search of that.
The key here is to be genuine and honest to her and with yourself.
2. Talking about another woman in front of her.
There are probably a thousand and one topics that you can discuss with your date, but the one thing which you can ill afford to bring up during a conversation, is the name of another woman. Never mind if you are drooling over Jessica Alba, never mind if it is your ex-girlfriend, never mind even if it is your maid. The bottom-line is this : women just don’t like it when they hear about another woman. Your date would expect you to be thinking only about her, and no-one else.
3. Shagging is on your mind
It's a natural human desire. Don't be ashamed, but be agentleman about it and don't come across as desperate.This mistake is just as disastrous as the first two. Talking about sex on your first date with her is an absolute no-no unless the chemistry is just right, there is reciprical flirting going on and the mood directs you both there. Do yourself a favour, and stay well clear of the subject of sex unless it is flowing wityhin the conversation. If this happens, keep it light. Never give away too much. Let’s face it. If a woman really needed some sex, then she wouldn’t even bother to go on a date with you. She would be busy in her bed. Get it?
4. Getting your hands all over her.
On your first date with her, make sure you restrict yourself to just a friendly handshake at the beginning, and maybe guide her by the small of her back while crossing the road. And when sending her back home, a gentle little peck on her cheek would do very nicely. Do not be a maniac, and move your hands all over her unless the signs are there (we'll discuss this on another topic). Chances are, she will have the cops coming down on you in no time. So control yourself, and your hands. Be a gentleman, not a jerk.
5. You try to be someone you are not.
I can’t stress this enough. On your first date, just be yourself. Do not try to be someone you are not. If you are that sporty person, then so be it. If you are that guy of the casual look, then so be it. Never try to impersonate a Brad Pitt, or a George Clooney. You will only be making a fool of yourself. So don’t try anything funny. Just be your natural self. And also, do not brag to her about anything. Don’t tell her that you are going to fly to the moon, and bring it down for her. Remember, whatever goes around, comes around. And in time to come, you will find that your bragging will come back to haunt you.
There you have it. The top 5 mistakes which you should avoid at all costs on your first date, outlined very neatly for you in this dating tip guide. Ignore them at your own peril and take from it what you can work with. If anything goes wrong on your first date, chances are, you will remember this article of mine.
Dean - Webmaster @ Fukked.com
Also the Director, writer, editor and arts director for Date Magazine Australia for 2002-2005 street press magazine
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