A Four Step process to Help Heal a Broken Heart.
Heartbreak for most people is a pain like no other. It is an emotional pain so bottomless and leaves you feeling so empty that you may feel as if you have suffered a physical blow. Such pain leaves you wanting the deep ache to disapaear. Truthfully speaking there is no quick fix for such a thing and the old saying "time heals" exists for a reason.
The old cliché with time as the remedy allows you to truly heal from such a deep, wrenching pain. In time, this pain will go away. Until then however, following a few basic steps can make the difference in how you are feeling.
1. Cry: Yes you read correctly. Let it out. You'll be amazed how much better you will feel when heavy sadness can be lifted from your shoulders. Crying relieves stress, reduces your hormone and chemical levels in the body, and helps you return to a calm state again. Do allow yourself to grieve for your loss, but not too long! Clinging to the past for too long can only hurt you. See rule number 4.
2. Talk to Someone Close: The shoulder of a family member or a friend who cares about you can bring great feelings of comfort. Allow them listen, comfort you, and offer advice. Of course, it's only another point of view and you may or may not take that advice, but sharing this comfort can help you feel better. Make sure you only allow yourself to grieve and lean on someone for a time because and move on with your life. Dragging it out is unhealthy to yourself and the other person.
3. Distract Yourself: Be around friends or bring friends you care about (or once cared about but never spent enough time with) back into your life. Relationships can and often do prevent people from spending adequate time with parents, or siblings. The biggest most predictable thing that occurs when people start dating is that they forget about those who were in their lives up to that point. So be mindful and always take steps before, during and after to keep your network alive and connected. Getting things done around the house that are overdue is a great way to distract yourself. Go to the gym. Reorganize your closet by going shopping and throwing out some of those old rags. Start afresh! Grab a friend and take a walk. As well as being distractions, these things often ARE the things you used to do before being in a relationship. So it's almost like stepping into your old self again (before the dramas). This brings us to rule number 4.
4. Look toward the Future; Make plans, write them down and they instantly become real. Take trips, join social groups or meet up clubs. Once you have allowed yourself the indulgence of grieving for a part of your life that is now past, look forward! There is a definite need to be able to start a new chapter in the book of your life. Now that you are past the sadness and anger, it is time for hope and renewal that will help you to move on. Take time out for yourself; get to know yourself again as a single individual instead of as part of a couple. Replenish your soul by becoming you again.
Following these oftentimes difficult, but important steps, can help you start healing the broken pieces of your heart. You can not only become whole again, you can become whatever you wish to become. Seize the chance to start fresh, and once the pain starts to ease, you will see it as such an opportunity.
I hope my tips have given you some ideas on how to successfully meet people.
Dean - Webmaster @ Fukked.com
Also the Director, writer, editor and arts director for Date Magazine Australia for 2002-2005 street press magazine
More soon on "How to Meet and attract women and successful relationships or meet an attract the right man for a successful relationship".
Fukked.com Copyright 2010 (Note: You must get permission to use our articles)
|
